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Friends to Dating?
There is a lot of controversy as to whether a person should date his or her best friend. After all, there is always the possibility that the relationship could end poorly and decimate that friendship. Then there are the concerns about the people who are mutual friends of the couple and how they might handle the relationship if it should fail. However, there is also the possibility of missing what would otherwise be a great relationship and potentially finding one’s soul mate.
There are some benefits to dating someone that you have been friends with for a period of time. The primary benefit is that you already know the person and you know that you have things in common. The discomfort of being around someone that you do not know as well is gone because you know this person well. The challenge of finding something to talk about is not there since you know what to talk about and you have a history together. This can make the first date go smooth and it can help to strengthen your relationship as friends and eventually as lovers.
The down side to dating your best friend is that if it does not end well, you could lose your friend. This is the number one reason that people do not date their best friends. The next big problem is that there may be mutual friends who oppose the relationship for one reason or the other and will do what they can to ruin relationship. They may do this out of jealousy or out of concern that you two might spend more time with each other and exclude the friends from your life. Following some simple rules can help to prevent this from occurring.
- Always practice honesty. This honesty is not only with the friend you are dating, but also with your other friends. Though it may be tempted to tell your friends that you are not doing anything with that special friend, this can hurt them when they do finally find out. As for that special friend you are hoping to date and build a life with, be completely honest with him or her about how you are feeling and how your friends are taking to the relationship. Nothing ruins relationships of all levels than a lie.
- Remember that a romantic relationship is only a step up from friendship. Though you may want to impress your friend and show them your more romantic side, they have more than likely seen your unromantic side as well. Do not stress about dating your friend and instead relax with it. Remember, your potential soul mate will be your romantic partner, as well as your best friend. It is perfectly okay to be yourself around your best friend and potentially romantic partner.
- Do not ignore your other friends as you work to build a romantic relationship with your friend. Remember, these friends are also important and you should include them in your plans when possible and they should be kept up to date on what is happening in your life. This is especially true for mutual friends since they may feel jealous or concerned if they are not kept up to date about your life. While your friends may not expect you to call them all the time, an occasional call is important to them too.
- You do not have to spend all of your time with your best friend and potential romantic partner. It is always a good idea to continue building your friendship with your other friends. Plan on having a girls’ or boys’ night out without your partner. This will give you things to talk about and it will help to keep things fresh and interesting. This will also give you time to keep up with your other friends.
- Remember always that you are friends with the person and that you should remain friends no matter what happens between you two. If things do not work out between you two, do not ignore or intentionally hurt the person that you were involved with. Instead, take the break up as adults and remain friends. This does not mean that you two have to be as close as you were, but you should still be able to communicate and you should still be nice to each other when mutual friends ask you out with them.
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Fall Accessories
Fall is upon us. Just last Monday, the start of fall was officially announced. This does not mean that the picnics have ended or that the weather is not still warm, but just that the leaves are beginning to turn and cold snaps are becoming more frequent. With the change in the weather comes the change in fashion. The deeper colors of autumn are now being seen in the stores, as are the thicker jackets and lovely sweaters.
Not only should your clothing change, but your accessories will need to change. The accessories are what help to make the outfit and accessories should be used to keep with the autumn season rather than using the same pieces of jewelry, shoes and purses. To use the same items will only confuse the outfit and give you an unkempt appearance.
Jewelry often seems like an all season deal. However, that is not the case. There are pieces of jewelry that are specifically geared towards the summer and those that are geared to the fall. Typically for the fall, the jewelry tends to be a golden color and there also tend to be a lot of reds during the fall season. One of the hottest trends for the fall is the golden leaf. This is a leaf that has been dipped and preserved in gold.
The shoes after Labor Day are always said to be anything but white. This is an outdated ideology with shoes. Feel free to wear white shoes any time of the year. However, now that it is fall, sandals are beginning to fall out of style. Instead, peep-toes and the pointed toe shoes are all the rage. Heels are always in, although the wedge is a big hit this year. Keep the shoes beautiful, but consider using an autumn color. Golden shoes and the shiny dark silvers are a big hit this year. Bright orange is not such a good idea now that it is fall.
Your purse is more than just a place to store your wallet and supplies. It is also a part of your wardrobe. Put away the lime green purse and bring out the brown, red or golden purses. This is fall, and the darker purses are a big hit during this time. Silver and black is always a classic combination and can help to tie together almost any outfit. Remember to match the shape of the purse with your body and not to fall victim to the ideology that just because it is a cute purse it will look cute on you. Remember, every piece of your wardrobe should compliment you, including your purse.
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Top Five Reasons to Never Tattoo a Name of a Lover on Your Body
I am sure that you have all seen it before—or that you may even know a person who has had it done—what I am talking about is tattooing the name of an intimate partner on your body. To answer any potential lingering questions: No, I do not and never will, tattoo a name of any person on my body. But there are tons of people that do, and will. According to many tattoo magazines, and some online sources I read, this comes with a very identifiable curse. That curse being: Generally most relationships end within six months of this process taking place. Sounds a tad bit superstitious right? But look around online, and you will see what I have read, and then you will believe. So I have been intrigued by this cult classic phenomenon and total no-no, enough so to write the top five reasons why one should never tattoo the name of a person you are dating or in a relationship with on your body. They are as follows.
- The six month curse. Most people believe that if you tattoo the name of your partner on your body that within half a year you will be broken up. It really does happen quite often. So there is something to this model.
- What if you break up later on? Then you have this name of a person—whom you more than likely detest at this point—on your body forever. Do you really want that?
- It’s freaky cheesy and overdone. That’s right! Think of something a bit more original for a tat that you plan on having for a lifetime. You may as well go ahead and get a heart with the word ‘Mom’ tatted on your body.
- Why not just buy monogrammed jewelry instead? If you are that inclined to have the name brandished on your person, get a monogrammed bracelet or necklace. If you do break up, you can just toss it in the fire and be done with it.
- Names look silly on bodies when tatted. They just do. That’s my personal view. But when there are so many other artistic options to choose from, a name seems like the worst option.
The Online Date From Hell!
I feel obliged to apprise you all of one of the worst dates that I have ever experienced from online dating, as this story is truly second-to-none, my friends! I have been online dating for about a year and a half now, and if you read any of my prior posts on the subject, it has certainly had its merits. However, I was on a fabulous date last night, one that also emanated from an online dating website, and we started sharing our date from hell stories with one another. I never thought my date from hell story would be the cake topper, but as it turns it, such was the case. Now I feel that I should share this hilarious, yet sad event with you all—so that you can giggle a little bit, and realize that there are, indeed, some ups and downs from dating online.
So I meet this gal—whose name I will not mention for privacy sake—at a very well known online dating site (which I will also refrain from mentioning for obvious reasons), and everything seems kosher at first. So what follows is how our date went down. I have listed it in the order that it transpired.
The Date From Hell!
- We meet at Olive Garden for dinner and drinks—she shows up nearly forty minutes late.
- I know upon seeing her that she lied on her profile, and used ten year old photos, as she has aged considerable.
- She has this gnarly, yenta accent that reminds me of my mom; I felt like I was going on a date with my mom to be honest. (I love you mom!)
- From the moment we are seated, nothing is right. She complains about everything. She also tells me never to talk about my ex, or religion or politics, and then proceeds to do so herself, boring me to tears.
- The drinks keep getting ordered, by her (I just had a beer), and by the time we are an hour in, she has rung up a $100 bar tab on vodka mixers with Grey Goose; go figure.
- By the time dinner is over (thank goodness for that), she has informed me that her age is wrong, and that she is not really 32. Nor is she 35. Not even 38. She is 42! I am 29, big no-no!
- I decided to pay the bill and stomach it just to get this thing over with. She is very intoxicated and I offer to drive her home or call her a cab. To which she adamantly refuses.
- After trying my best, I decided that I can’t help her any longer, and I really want to get the hell out of there. And away from her!
- So we call it a night and I get in my car to drive home, entirely disturbed by the events that just took place.
- As we are leaving—and here is the kicker—she pulls out before me, cutting me off nonetheless and nearly hitting my car. A cop sees all of this and lights her up. She is cuffed and stuffed for a DUI, which she deserved. I head home and shake off the memories of the worst date I ever have been on!
Fashion Canvas Totes
It has become quite fashionable to want to save the world and the environment any more. This is a trend that I can only hope that makes its way into the everyday mode, much like the jeans did so long ago. One big thing is the overwhelming presence of the plastic bag. The plastic bag does not decompose like paper or even textiles. As of yet, there is nothing that is going to eat away at these bags. In addition, in order for these bags to be made, oil has to be used in the mix. With the oil spill from the well in the Gulf of Mexico, many people are shying away from things that require crude oil in their production.
The canvas bag is helping to replace the plastic bag. It is an eco-friendly method of carrying products out of the store and into the home. They are sturdy and durable, making these bags able to hold their shapes better and carry more weight. In addition, these bags are washable and re-usable. They even come in the latest fashionable looks!
Fashion canvas totes appeared as soon as the functional totes did. These totes sport cute sayings like Wal-Mart’s “Paper or Plastic? Neither.” And Save-a-Lot’s “Save some Green” with a tree under it and money as leaves. These totes can also feature cute designs that work well with a person’s outfit.
There are even fashion totes that allow you to further personalize them. These totes can be found in the craft stores, ready to be beaded or stitched to the individual’s specific plans and desires. When doing this though, know when to stop. The tote does not have to be crazy to be good for the environment and fashionable.
The canvas tote has also been known to inspire very expensive totes. This includes the Louis Vuitton “That’s Love” Canvas tote. This tote carries a whopping price tag of $1720, but has the same boxy design and construction of the $.99 cent totes that you can buy at Wal-Mart. This is just a show of how popular and how fashionable these totes have become.
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