• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
IamMoody Event Planning

IAmMoody

Events | Promotion | Fashion

  • About
    • Team
    • FAQ
  • Fashion Runway Show Producer
  • Services
    • Promotional Marketing
  • Portfolio
    • Our Clients, Friends & Partners
  • Calendar
    • Richard Moody Holiday Party
    • 2023 All Black Attire Party
    • Afro Art Project
    • Dandies Project
  • Blog
  • Contact

dating

Men are From Mars Women are From Venus: A Quick Look at the Mental Mindset of the Sexes

January 3, 2011 by IamMoody

A large majority of men tend to over think nearly everything. For all extents and purposes, it’s safe to say that men – or at least a decent 60% of them – are big time thinkers. Then you have the feminine side of the equation. That being: Women, at least for the most part, are feelers, and are a bit more in touch with their emotions and with expressing their emotions than men are. From the male side of the coin, men tend to follow a logical thinking process, and end up making tangible decisions based upon what is logical, whereas most women make emotion-fueled reactions.

With this in a mind, a good example can be derived. Say you just got home from a rather eventful and stress, albeit productive, day at work. You are worn out, a bit stressed, your muscles are tense, and you decide to tell you significant other about your day. While you are venting and letting off some steam, he keeps suggesting what he thinks would be a rational and logical solution to your dilemma. Things like suggesting that you find a different job if you are not happy with your current one, or that you should take some time off and so forth.

All of the while, however, you were not trying to ask him for a solution to your grievances, but rather that he understand what you are going through, why you feel the way that you do, and that you’d really just like him to hold you, plant a kiss on your lips and assure you that everything is going to be ok; or even offer you a short and loving shoulder massage to ease your tensions. However, this logical-infused reaction generally will only serve to work you up more and increase your levels of frustration.

Case and point: Most women act out of emotional responses. And most men act upon logical inferences that they think can tangibly resolve a situation without playing upon their emotions for a conclusion. However, when he (the man in your life) is just trying to deduce the calamity of your situation, and not offer any real emotional and physical support, it does not really help you feel any better now…does it?

Therefore, we can see the differences in how men and women express their feelings. So let’s dive into this topic briefly. Perhaps we can dig up some differing male and female emotional countenances that play into this conundrum.

It’s really something that starts at childbirth for most men; they are simply taught to contain their emotions. They are men. Society has long uplifted the male-domination philosophy, and while much has changed over time, still much has not. The reality is that men still are taught to control and contain their emotions. They are supposed to be these rocks of solidarity that cannot be broken. Think about it…football, NASCAR, MMA fighting, these are all great examples of how masculinity is embodied by the male mindset during the present day.

Simply put: To be emotional is not to be masculine, for most men. They, for the most part, adhere to a common male stereotype that conforms to being tough, rock-solid, hunky, and void of decision-altering emotions. You rarely see straight men even discussing their emotions with other men, and if so it’s really dry and neutral. So one can borrow from that train of thought and presume that men would also struggle with discussing their emotions with their female counterparts.

It could be compared to asking us gals to know how to be more manly, free of emotion and overly logical in our premonitions; we just are not wired for this type of mental fanfare; we are women. The reality is that men often shield their emotions. They have been taught to hide them. It’s not really their fault. It’s just the way that they function in society, something that has gone on since the Neolithic days. Men still borrow from the Neanderthal mindset (which is nearly the same mindset of the 50s male) of being the leader of the tribe. The bread winner. The head of the household. They are not able to always mentally budge in the way that we would wish that they could or would. We could safely say that it’s nearly like we come from two different dimensions that precariously divide the sexes.

Then again, I am a man. And then again, that’s just my take. Perhaps you can add some flare to this with your input. I’d greatly welcome your comments.

Happy New Year

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: dating, Men are From Mars Women are From Venus

How to be Fashionable When Dating Online – Three Rules You Should Never Break

December 11, 2010 by IamMoody

I am back with some more information from my ongoing online dating adventures. Boy has it been one interesting ride thus far. Yet my fortitude holds me strong, and further do I push on into the realm of romance and swooning. For certain, it has yielded to me many very interesting dates, and they have not been without their ups and downs. Yet still, I find myself seeking that special someone who is right for me. Uncertain of whether or not that I will ever find that person, there are a few things that I have picked up along the way that can truly epitomize the real definition of some tried and true online dating rules. So allow for me to divulge what I have been able to take with me while on my quest for love on the information superhighway.

Three Timeless Online Dating Rules I’ve Learned:

  1. If someone gives out their phone number too early, it’s usually a sign of them being desperate. If you don’t want to have to screen your phone calls forever, then make sure to screen the people you date. Both men and women can be desperate, and if you are looking for someone real, the last thing you want to have to do is get your phone bomb-called day and night by the wrong person.
  2. Coyly ask for recent photos after you exchange numbers, and before you meet the person – in person – so that there are no surprises. Men and women are equally guilty of posting either out-of-date photos or the ‘best-looking’ photos of themselves online. We all want to look attractive. However, many times they look totally different in person. An easy trick around this: Kindly ask them to send you a recently snapped cell phone pic so you can see what they really look like.
  3. Keep the first date short, simple and to the point. Think of your first date like you are interviewing one another for a potential second date – or the second interview. Don’t overdo it. Avoid movies or other distractions so you can really chat and get to know one another. No need for spending a grip of cash on dinner either. A short couple of drinks or a cup of coffee or tea should allow you to really know if this person warrants a second, longer date.

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Date, dating, dating rules, ng online, online dating, online dating rules

Online Dating Escapades: The Adventure Continues (Plus Some Tips Shared)

September 24, 2010 by IamMoody

I know that you have all been reading me rant and rave about the many online dating adventures that I have enjoyed, or been plagued by, over the past few months. I was even reading up some interesting factoids online about this online dating conundrum I find myself in the thick of. And interestingly enough, about 1 in 5 relationships these days is spawned from the seedlings of an online dating endeavor. Whether you are meeting up on social networking websites, or free or pay-to-use online dating websites, the reality is that many people like to hook up after they meet online.

The one thing I am having a hard time grasping is that this generally also leads to several other things, associated nuances if you will. After really getting a firm hold in the online dating world, and embarking upon so many dates that I have really lost count of them all, as I avidly seek out Miss Perfection—there are some tidbits that I have been able to take with me along the way. To better offer you some more in-depth perspective about dos and don’ts and dating tips, here are some of the things that I have been apprised of during my online dating adventures.

  1. Avoid endless strings of emails. If you are not able to score a date with a person after the rule of three (three emails back and forth, totaling six), you may be wasting your time. Besides, you are online to get a date. You can yap each other’s ears off once you are on that date, instead of in the body of the email.
  2. Girls: Stop showing your kids in the main profile picture! You want to know what most guys think when they see this terrible online dating faux paw: You are a desperate single mother. I know that you love your kids. But YOU are on the dating site, not them.
  3. Guys: Stop putting pictures in your profile without your shirt on. Girls abhor this egotistical crap. It really is a shining beacon that tells them that you are self-centered and seeking a one-night-stand. Yeah, that’s why your inbox is still empty, ‘toned-George!’

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Date, dating, dating tips, online dating

The Online Date From Hell!

September 7, 2010 by IamMoody

I feel obliged to apprise you all of one of the worst dates that I have ever experienced from online dating, as this story is truly second-to-none, my friends! I have been online dating for about a year and a half now, and if you read any of my prior posts on the subject, it has certainly had its merits. However, I was on a fabulous date last night, one that also emanated from an online dating website, and we started sharing our date from hell stories with one another. I never thought my date from hell story would be the cake topper, but as it turns it, such was the case. Now I feel that I should share this hilarious, yet sad event with you all—so that you can giggle a little bit, and realize that there are, indeed, some ups and downs from dating online.

So I meet this gal—whose name I will not mention for privacy sake—at a very well known online dating site (which I will also refrain from mentioning for obvious reasons), and everything seems kosher at first. So what follows is how our date went down. I have listed it in the order that it transpired.

The Date From Hell!

  1. We meet at Olive Garden for dinner and drinks—she shows up nearly forty minutes late.
  2. I know upon seeing her that she lied on her profile, and used ten year old photos, as she has aged considerable.
  3. She has this gnarly, yenta accent that reminds me of my mom; I felt like I was going on a date with my mom to be honest. (I love you mom!)
  4. From the moment we are seated, nothing is right. She complains about everything. She also tells me never to talk about my ex, or religion or politics, and then proceeds to do so herself, boring me to tears.
  5. The drinks keep getting ordered, by her (I just had a beer), and by the time we are an hour in, she has rung up a $100 bar tab on vodka mixers with Grey Goose; go figure.
  6. By the time dinner is over (thank goodness for that), she has informed me that her age is wrong, and that she is not really 32. Nor is she 35. Not even 38. She is 42! I am 29, big no-no!
  7. I decided to pay the bill and stomach it just to get this thing over with. She is very intoxicated and I offer to drive her home or call her a cab. To which she adamantly refuses.
  8. After trying my best, I decided that I can’t help her any longer, and I really want to get the hell out of there. And away from her!
  9. So we call it a night and I get in my car to drive home, entirely disturbed by the events that just took place.
  10. As we are leaving—and here is the kicker—she pulls out before me, cutting me off nonetheless and nearly hitting my car. A cop sees all of this and lights her up. She is cuffed and stuffed for a DUI, which she deserved. I head home and shake off the memories of the worst date I ever have been on!

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Date, date from hell, dating, DUI, Grey Goose, Olive Garden, online, online dating, online dating site

The Extended Weekend Date (While Being a Gentleman)!

August 18, 2010 by IamMoody

I know that I have been yapping about dating and online dating in a few past articles, and actually have decided to document one of my most recent—and very amazing experiences that is relative to dating—because I feel it to be ever so noteworthy of an endeavor. Seeing as there are plenty of strapping single young lads like me out there (as well as plenty of ladies), there will always be daters seeking some form of advice, hints or tips, or just looking to find out more about what other people have been able to secure through their online dating adventures. For me, after a gnarly divorce, and a marriage that spanned the good part of a decade, I found myself suddenly flung into the dating scene; go figure!

Not being the frequenter of many bars, pubs or clubs, abhorring date chat lines, and really not into local match making services, I decided to go with a free—yes free—online dating account; as I think it’s silly to pay to meet someone when you can do the same thing for free. So I feel it ever so necessary to document my experiences with this wonderful person that I have met, which is turning out to be the seedlings that have some great potential to blossom into the long term, nurturing relationship that I have been diligently seeking over the past year and a half of being single.

The Timeline of my Dating Experience with this Wonderful Person

Meeting on an Online Dating Website

So I started a profile on a free online dating site called Plenty of Fish (you can find it by searching for it online, but I will refrain from brandishing their URL, as I am not trying to advertise for this free dating website). I made sure to write a great profile bio, upload recent pictures of myself, and then I started emailing and chatting with fellow online female daters. It took about a week before I met just a fantastic woman (who I will also keep her name private because I wish to preserve her confidentiality, and it is of no consequence to the nature and the premise of this article). In short: we exchanged several emails, then used instant messaging, finally sharing our Facebook pages—and this all led up to a set date night—all within the first five days of getting to know her!

The First Date

The first date was awesome. We broke all the rules, too; like talking about our exes, politics, our views on religion and so forth. We hit up a few great Arizona nighttime hotspots and quickly realized that we were a pretty darned good match. From there, it was all cream and sugar my friends.

Text Messages, Chatting, & Following Up

Over the few days from that Wednesday that followed, plenty of text messages were sent to and from one another and a few phone calls were made. Behold: We now had a weekend date set to meet up on Friday. But I never thought it would be nearly as extended as it turned out to be! And who says online dating doesn’t work? Oh yeah, I did!

Boy was I wrong, and in the very best of ways, too!

A Weekend Rendezvous Like-Never-Before (No Sex; That’s Being a Gentleman)!

Then Friday of the same week hit. She and I met up for sushi at this cool little hole-in-the-wall and decided to go bar-hopping following that. We met up with her girlfriends at a total dive pub later (so they could get their one-up on me and make sure I was not some maniacal serial killer; I love eating cereal, so please!). After a night on the town Friday that was truly hard to top, she ended up staying the night. We hung out, watched TV and movies, drank some damn good mixed drinks and I gave her a half-hour sensual massage. I cannot emphasize enough that there was NO SEX, and there is NOTHING wrong with taking it slow. If you are looking for a one-night-stand, that’s another story, however.

Come Saturday, it was a dreamy day where we slept in. Then hunger hit us on the head, and we embarked to a local spot to dine on some Mexican fares and get some drinks. Our day kicked off smoothly, and back to the house to hang out we went. We cuddled and were ‘bedroom junkies’ for a bit, watching TV, chatting, and snoozing. Come the night, we were on the hunt for yet another dating adventure. To the local Arizona casinos we headed, and we were greatly disappointed. We found ourselves back at a few choice dive bars, and then capped the night off with mixer drinks we picked up at a grocery store on the way back home. She stayed the night with me on Saturday as well, another massage was offered and accepted, and again, I was not ready to take that next leap into full sex; still too early.

Now we talk and text daily and have plans to meet up again a few times this week. All in all, it has been the most exhilarating dating experiencing I have yet to encounter. I am ever so confident that this person may indeed be the ‘one’ that I have been seeking all of this while. Only time will tell. And in time, perhaps, I will take things to the next intimate level.

But there is never anything wrong with playing your cards right and being a true gentleman!

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: Date, date chat lines, daters, dating, dating website, free dating website, match making services, online date, online dating, Plenty of Fish

BK Family Restaurant

August 18, 2010 by IamMoody

BK Family Restaurant is situated in a hidden sliver of businesses or former businesses tucked away behind office buildings and a small cemetery in Coon Rapids.

Locals here know the location well.  We arrived on a Saturday morning to a crowded parking lot and even more crowded dining room.   The owner didn’t really give us a choice of where we wanted to be seated as he placed two menus on the table behind the cash register/hostess stand and said “you sit here ok” not a question, but not a statement either.

The dining room lacks any kind of intimacy or sections.  Like a large room with tables and chairs, you feel like you are at a church social or family reunion rather than a restaurant.  If you like a quiet time with your coffee and eggs, this is definitely not the place to be; because once the place is full the din and cacophony vibrate through the dining room like the buzzing of bees.

The service is quick and impersonal.  But the day we were there we did get to see what happens when the wait staff forgets to shout a time tested server caveat: “coming out” as they leave the server area into the dining room.  Trays, glasses and ice cubes did a merry dance in the air before landing on the carpeted floor in a symphony of crash, tinkle and bang IL concerto for the red-faced waiter.

The menu is a cook’s nightmare.  The breakfast items alone tally up to fifty one choices. That doesn’t include the specials board, the table tent with specials and the children’s and senior menus.  The rest of the menu reads like a deli/lunch counter/diner/ from the 1980’s with Its diet plate of cottage cheese, tomato slices with a hamburger patty and the dreaded half sandwich and soup choice that plagued chefs sanity everywhere during the Reagan years.  There are items on the lunch special area of the menu, and the same items are listed above them under specialty burgers at a lower cost. It all seems a bit too confusing and busy.  I can only imagine the work that goes into ordering the food, the prep work to get it ready and tempers flaring during service when uncertainty of which burger, sandwich or omelet off the countless choices the customer actually ordered.

The food is satisfactory but you get the idea that the owner is cutting corners on quality to save money.  My wife’s skillet had some sort of processed, shredded ham product that any food establishment should be ashamed to use, and there was a thimble full of cheese buried in the uncooked recesses of green pepper, onions and hash browns.  My chicken fried steak and eggs was fine, but equivalent to anything you would find at any Perkin’s or Denny’s, but at least the potions were larger.

Of course there are salads, burgers, dinner items like pasta, steaks and chicken, wraps, hors d’oevres and the above listed senior and children menus.

BK also boast catering for in house and outside parties, and all weddings, banquets etc.

All in all the food was enjoyable, and certainly enough to satisfy the biggest appetite, just make sure you have enough time to look over the menu.

BK Family Restaurant is located at 11496 Martin St in Coon Rapids MN.

Filed Under: Blog Tagged With: cooking, dating, dining out, eating, Northern suburbs

  • Page 1
  • Page 2
  • Go to Next Page »

Primary Sidebar

Recent Posts

  • Threads of Impact: A Night to Remember
  • Richard Moody Fashion Producer Featured In Sister Statesman + Upcoming Fashion Show
  • Threads of Impact: Black Fashion Week
  • Richard Moody’s 33rd Annual Holiday & Charity Party: A Magical Evening of Giving Back
  • 2024 Neighborhood Super Sale
  • About
    • Team
    • FAQ
  • Fashion Runway Show Producer
  • Services
    • Promotional Marketing
  • Portfolio
    • Our Clients, Friends & Partners
  • Calendar
    • Richard Moody Holiday Party
    • 2023 All Black Attire Party
    • Afro Art Project
    • Dandies Project
  • Blog
  • Contact

© 2025 · IAmMoody, LLC