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Online Dating Escapades: The Adventure Continues (Plus Some Tips Shared)

September 24, 2010 by IamMoody

I know that you have all been reading me rant and rave about the many online dating adventures that I have enjoyed, or been plagued by, over the past few months. I was even reading up some interesting factoids online about this online dating conundrum I find myself in the thick of. And interestingly enough, about 1 in 5 relationships these days is spawned from the seedlings of an online dating endeavor. Whether you are meeting up on social networking websites, or free or pay-to-use online dating websites, the reality is that many people like to hook up after they meet online.

The one thing I am having a hard time grasping is that this generally also leads to several other things, associated nuances if you will. After really getting a firm hold in the online dating world, and embarking upon so many dates that I have really lost count of them all, as I avidly seek out Miss Perfection—there are some tidbits that I have been able to take with me along the way. To better offer you some more in-depth perspective about dos and don’ts and dating tips, here are some of the things that I have been apprised of during my online dating adventures.

Avoid endless strings of emails. If you are not able to score a date with a person after the rule of three (three emails back and forth, totaling six), you may be wasting your time. Besides, you are online to get a date. You can yap each other’s ears off once you are on that date, instead of in the body of the email.
Girls: Stop showing your kids in the main profile picture! You want to know what most guys think when they see this terrible online dating faux paw: You are a desperate single mother. I know that you love your kids. But YOU are on the dating site, not them.
Guys: Stop putting pictures in your profile without your shirt on. Girls abhor this egotistical crap. It really is a shining beacon that tells them that you are self-centered and seeking a one-night-stand. Yeah, that’s why your inbox is still empty, ‘toned-George!’

Date Night Gone Right—While Breaking All the Faux Paws Dating Rules!

August 12, 2010 by IamMoody

I did it people! I went ahead and broke my own rules, to some extent, with regards to online dating, over this past week! I have written a few prior posts regarding dating hints and tips, and rules of the thumb that should always be followed. I am pleased to inform you that I completely adhered to my “Three Easy Online Dating Tips I’ve Learned” article; which you can click the link that I have provided above to see what that post comprised.

In that article I exemplified several ways to be successful with online dating, such as the following: Use Recent Photos on Your Profile, Write a Concise & Clear Bio About Yourself & Don’t Get Discouraged by Those Who Don’t Respond. But…the story ever so thickens because I wrote another article following that which was entitled, “Four Dating Don’ts You Should Never Do!” (Click the link to see this article on online dating.) But yet, somehow, even by breaking a rule or two, it was just a magnificent date, my friends!

So manning up to the rules I broke, here we go! I stated as rule number one to, “Never talk about your ex. I cannot emphasize this enough. This is such a bad thing to do. One, you are on a date to meet them and learn more about them, not rehash negative and bad experiences you have had with love. That is a major turn-off and a big time no-no!” But the gal I met was lovely, smart, sassy and successful—and she started off the whole ex conversation. I tried to veer away from it by changing the subject, but we ended up sharing a laugh or two, finding some very special common ground, and really getting to learn more about each other. In hindsight, you should try to veer away from this, but then again, I did it and it worked this time around!

Mind you, it usually has disastrous results, however!

Rules number three and four in that article were easily followed, and worked like a charm. Those rules being, “Three” Chivalry is not dead. Guys, I know that it is not the 50s anymore, but have some class. Open the doors, get the drinks, and be attentive and focused on the girl. Always offer to pay the full bill, even if they argue otherwise. Girls have it easier than we men when on dates, that’s for sure. But playing your cards right is always smart. Four: Open your ears, not your mouth, and mind your manners. Most commonly I hear the women I know fret over men never listening to them. So this one is a no-brainer: Listen up. Then talk. Also, be mindful of your manners and the way that you present yourself; don’t talk with a mouth full of food or ask your date if they want to go heads-to-toe with a burping contest!”

So while I did break a rule here and there—and rules are generally made to be broken once in a while—I have to admit that it was the best damned date I have ever had! We are meeting up again this weekend to hang out and have some fun, too!

In summation: Go for it!

Just make sure you try and adhere to some of the rules of dating and online dating, because in my experience, it has always served me well,

I just got super lucky this time around!

Three Easy Online Dating Tips I’ve Learned

July 11, 2010 by IamMoody

After a ten year relationship has gone sour on me—and after taking nearly two years to reflect upon whom I am and what I could take from that relationship—I find myself just another number on one of the many dating sites that populate the World Wide Web these days. That being said, there are some really important lessons that I have learned from both my own mishaps and by conducting some online research into what dating and love experts had to say about online dating. That being said, I learned rather quickly that I was doing some things in the improper manner, and that it was greatly hampering the amounts of dates that I was going on. So I took some time to look over and study these online dating tips, and like magic my inbox has slowly but surely started to fill up—brimming with emails from attractive ladies that I share common interests with, and now, finally, the dates are rolling on in. I aim to share three of the dating tips I learned with you all—so perhaps you can avoid some of the pitfalls that I was subjected to early on.

Use Recent Photos on Your Profile
The biggest mistake I have learned is that you always want to represent who you are by what you look like currently. So use recent and very current photos of yourself. If you don’t have any, have a friend take some. The last thing you want your date seeing is something that is five years older than the photo that they saw on your profile—which is easily part of the reason why they are interested in going on a date with you in the first place.

Write a Concise & Clear Bio About Yourself
Being a writer, I am unable to tell you how many disparagingly terrible profile bios that I have had the displeasure of reading since I started using dating websites. Most are so poorly written that it is hard to discern what the person is about, and many are filled with slang and bad grammar that makes my head spin. Is this how you want people to think of who you are? If not, and if you really want to get better responses, then take the time to write a really great profile bio for your online dating account.

Don’t Get Discouraged by Those Who Don’t Respond
One last tip I can offer stems from that timeless saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!” Think of dating like you are fishing in the pond of your romantic life. The first fish that bites may not be the one that you want to take home to the family for dinner. If not, toss it back in the pond and cast your line again.