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How to Win Back Your Ex-Boyfriend

October 25, 2010 by Michael Jon Lazar

If you were recently involved in a committed and monogamous relationship, and now you suddenly find yourself single and hating it, there could be a wide array of reasons as to why the relationship failed. Aside from the mental trauma that you may be experiencing, combined with the stresses of being single again, if you still love your ex-boyfriend and really want to win him back, there are some solid methods of approach that you can implement. While no approach is going to guarantee you success, if you are really adamant about winning him back, there are some key things that go on in the minds of men when they have parted ways their girlfriends or significant others.

Relationships can fail for many different reasons. The most common one, sadly, is that one party has cheated on the other. From this standpoint we must first identify if cheating and breaking the bonds of trust were indeed a factor. Did you cheat on your boyfriend, and did he find out and then break up with you? Paramount to this would be the fact that there are many different aspects of the cheating process. For example, in many instances a person will cheat on their lover with someone that they both know, such as a close friend of them both. In such cases, winning back your boyfriend would be a very difficult prospect, because he did not only lose you due to the affair, but he also lost a friend.

Aside from cheating, there are other reasons why a relationship might go sour. Perhaps you were unwilling to compromise on something that he found to be very important. Some things that come right to mind include, for instance, moving to a new location where he had a job offer and you not supporting his decision. Or, say, you both were fighting and bickering all of the time with no light at the end of the tunnel in sight, and he finally was mental taxed and called it quits on you. No matter what the reason was for your breakup, if you still love and miss your ex-boyfriend, and you really want him back in your life—this simple blog can offer you some hidden treasures and approaches that may be able to net you back the love of your life.

Identifying What Went Wrong

The importance of owning up for your actions and not playing the blame game and realizing that you may have caused the breakup are essential in the healing process. It is of good mind to evaluate yourself, your lifestyle and your tendencies, and see if any changes can be made that could allow for you win him back.

Analyzing Yourself

You should really analyze and ensure that you are in a mental position to actually be back in the same relationship. Also, you should take a look at some key factors – from the mental stance – that caused the breakup in the first place. Things that come to mind include: Cheating, laziness, or constant fighting and bickering. Can you change these things?

Are You Sure You Are Ready to Be Back Together?

Look at the pros and cons of the relationship, note the key points on why it failed. Did yours fail because of any of these? It is of a good mind to really weigh these pros and cons – in your mind and in the mind of your ex – before trying to win them back.

Did You Cheat? How to Right to Wrong (If Possible)

Cheating is such a relationship killer. Aside from the numerous health risks that are associated, the heartbreak and the mental duress it causes that may have led up to the demise of the relationship, it’s just a top reason why many relationships fail. Identify what the chances are of being forgiven for cheating and moving forwards in a positive manner. Is it even possible at this point, or should you just move on?

Three Easy Online Dating Tips I’ve Learned

July 11, 2010 by Michael Jon Lazar

After a ten year relationship has gone sour on me—and after taking nearly two years to reflect upon whom I am and what I could take from that relationship—I find myself just another number on one of the many dating sites that populate the World Wide Web these days. That being said, there are some really important lessons that I have learned from both my own mishaps and by conducting some online research into what dating and love experts had to say about online dating. That being said, I learned rather quickly that I was doing some things in the improper manner, and that it was greatly hampering the amounts of dates that I was going on. So I took some time to look over and study these online dating tips, and like magic my inbox has slowly but surely started to fill up—brimming with emails from attractive ladies that I share common interests with, and now, finally, the dates are rolling on in. I aim to share three of the dating tips I learned with you all—so perhaps you can avoid some of the pitfalls that I was subjected to early on.

Use Recent Photos on Your Profile
The biggest mistake I have learned is that you always want to represent who you are by what you look like currently. So use recent and very current photos of yourself. If you don’t have any, have a friend take some. The last thing you want your date seeing is something that is five years older than the photo that they saw on your profile—which is easily part of the reason why they are interested in going on a date with you in the first place.

Write a Concise & Clear Bio About Yourself
Being a writer, I am unable to tell you how many disparagingly terrible profile bios that I have had the displeasure of reading since I started using dating websites. Most are so poorly written that it is hard to discern what the person is about, and many are filled with slang and bad grammar that makes my head spin. Is this how you want people to think of who you are? If not, and if you really want to get better responses, then take the time to write a really great profile bio for your online dating account.

Don’t Get Discouraged by Those Who Don’t Respond
One last tip I can offer stems from that timeless saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!” Think of dating like you are fishing in the pond of your romantic life. The first fish that bites may not be the one that you want to take home to the family for dinner. If not, toss it back in the pond and cast your line again.

Four Dating Don’ts You Should Never Do!

July 9, 2010 by Michael Jon Lazar

Being a single fellow over here, following a very lengthy relationship that spanned just over the edge of twelve years and that had some ups and downs, but was for the most part grand, I find myself on the dating scene again. Oddly enough, this has been a learning lesson for me as I go on date after date with stranger after stranger. I have heard about—and have been subject to—some dates from hell. This led me to be intrigued to look up some classic don’ts that you should always stray far, far away from when on any date. For me, I commonly see these ‘don’ts’ exhibited on many dates that I go on, and am immediately turned off by them.

So for any of you likeminded daters who are out there who are looking for love, perhaps these candid tips will help you avoid the conundrum of being caught in that proverbial dating twist. You know, where you say and do things that you later regret that make or break that date. Usually, I see it from the other side. But rest assured, I myself am guilty of these as well. But I am getting more refined with each passing day; or so I fondly tell myself to stroke my own ego. Without ado, avoid these four don’ts when on a date, and at all costs!

Never talk about your ex. I cannot emphasize this enough. This is such a bad thing to do. One, you are on a date to meet them and learn more about them, not rehash negative and bad experiences you have had with love. That is a major turn-off and a big time no-no!
Avoid discussing politics or religion. There is this old time rule about being at a bar: You never talk about either of these subjects because they open the doors to much debate. In par with that notion is when you are on a date. Rather, focus on the person, their likes and dislikes, and who they really are. The other stuff can come later, if you enter into a relationship with them.
Chivalry is not dead. Guys, I know that it is not the 50s anymore, but have some class. Open the doors, get the drinks, and be attentive and focused on the girl. Always offer to pay the full bill, even if they argue otherwise. Girls have it easier than we men when on dates, that’s for sure. But playing your cards right is always smart.
Open your ears, not your mouth, and mind your manners. Most commonly I hear the women I know fret over men never listening to them. So this one is a no-brainer: Listen up. Then talk. Also, be mindful of your manners and the way that you present yourself; don’t talk with a mouth full of food or ask your date if they want to go heads-to-toe with a burping contest!